If we’re honest, we pray maybe two or three times and then we try to manipulate the situation ourselves, or we pray and then we run 1 million scenarios in our head of how it could go wrong, or we pray not believing at all that God will actually do anything but because we think we’re supposed to.

While this reads as a list of things I am good at, none of them are spiritual gifts. In fact, I'm convinced they actually damage my...